Many Christians suffer from recurring memories of a sinful or hurtful act, either committed by them or against them. No one gets through life without some heartbreaking loss, rejection or sin. Freedom from these things often happens when, or soon after, a person decides to follow Christ.
If suffering continues long after asking forgiveness, if memory pain won’t go away, if the sting of guilt persists . . .
Here’s a plan.
Make an appointment with God. Set a time and place to meet with Him. Perhaps at the living room sofa while baby takes a nap. Make it a time when you can be alone without interruption. Shut off television, phones and all other modes of communication. This is a special and holy appointment between you and your Heavenly Father.
When the date and time arrive, lay out your sorrows before Him as best you can. You may not find words to express them. God understands unspoken feelings. Tears may flow as heartaches float to the surface. You may choose to write down thoughts that come to mind. It’s a good idea to have your Bible near. God often speaks to us through His Word.
Ask God to heal your broken heart. Prayer: Lord, pour your healing oil into the crevices of my heart. Restore to me what has been stolen (broken or damaged). Let your thoughts regarding my sorrows supersede my thoughts. Let good come from my brokenness. And turn my mourning into joy. When sorrowful memories surface, I ask that you take away their power to hurt me.
Take as much time as you need. You may feel exhausted afterwards. Rest. More than one appointment may be necessary. Keep at it until little by little God mends your broken spirit.
You will come to a point where all the things that wounded you will be distant memories and their ability to hurt you is gone. You will remember them without pain.
Some scriptures to hang your hopes on . . .
You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy – Psalm 30:11
Rejoice, O people of Zion! Shout in triumph, O people of Jerusalem! Look, your king is coming to you. He is righteous and victorious, yet he is humble, riding on a donkey–riding on a donkey’s colt. Zechariah 9:9
To grant those who mourn in Zion, giving them a garland instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the mantle of praise instead of a spirit of fainting so they will be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified. Isaiah 61:3
Then the virgin will rejoice in the dance, and the young men and the old, together, for I will turn their mourning into joy And will comfort them and give them joy for their sorrow. Jeremiah 31:13
Then I will give her vineyards from there, and the valley of Achor (bitterness) will become as a door of hope, and she will sing there as in the days of her youth, as in the day when she came up from the land of Egypt (enslavement). Hosea 2:15
Rose McCormick Brandon writes books and articles, teaches Bible studies and writing classes, speaks at churches, libraries, historical societies and museums. Visit her website. Contact her at: firstname.lastname@example.org. Visit her blog on Canada’s British Home Children.